“Look after Number 1”
Hello Motivation Seekers, how are you? Hope you had a fantastic week and got a bit more productivity going after last week’s Motivator.
This week I want to continue on from this, so you can start making some little changes that can make a big difference. Our quote this week is short and sweet and from Dan Goldie who was my Dad. I remember him saying this to one of my children and in my “pre-enlightened” days, I thought it sounded so selfish. In fact I had been brought up to think of others and put others first, and here he was telling his grandchild that he had to put himself first! I found it unbelievable at the time.
Was Dad right? Yes, he was most emphatically right. Maybe, he only got enlightened in later life too! The thing is, unless we put ourselves first, how can we be in the right frame of mind for anyone else? Remember what they tell you on an aeroplane, “put your own oxygen mask on first” – this is so you are able to help others.
Do you put yourself first? Do you have your own personal “self care” plan? If you have never considered this, I recommend that you do. If you want to feel happier, be more productive, efficient, and have less stress, then you need to start putting you first. I have 5 tips for you to get started:
Tip 1 – Become aware of what you need to make you feel happy and fulfilled. Think about your happiest times, what are you doing, who are you with, how do you feel? For me, I was always happiest in nature, particularly being near the sea. I now live near the sea, so I have that peaceful, happy feeling every time I look out the window! I also know that I am energised by being around like minded people. Spending time with others, doing things I am interested in, makes me more productive when I get back to work. Take time this week to think about what does it for you.
Tip 2 – Block out time for the happy and fulfilled moments. If you have children and you lead a busy life, you might be thinking this is a great theory, but just not possible. My message to you is you have to make it possible, however you can. If there are things you need to do to keep you fulfilled, you need to schedule them in. No-one will ever thank you for sacrificing yourself. If you do that, you end up feeling like a victim….not a great way to feel and it leads to feelings of resentment. You may find you need to delegate, let go of trying to be everything to everyone, or just prioritise the important stuff.
Tip 3 – Look after your body. I’m not going to suggest going on a diet – they don’t work! What I am suggesting is that for you to feel amazing, your body has to be fed well – regular, consistent meals that are high in nutritional content. You have to sleep well – however long you need! I have to get 8 hours sleep or I become an angry, grumpy, exhausted person! Some of you may only need 6 hours, some may need more. Make sure you get whatever it is you need. Also get moving – at least 30 minutes a day. The key to this is to do exercise that you enjoy, ideally with others. If it feels like fun, you will stick with it.
Tip 4 – Practise Meditation. This is absolutely one of the best ways of looking after your self. Meditation relaxes you, improves your concentration and you become more productive and less stressed. What’s not to like? Please consider giving it a go. Start small and build it up. Keep it simple. Start with 5 minutes focusing just on your breathing. When the mind gets in the way (it will), bring the focus back again to the breath. Then build up to at least 20 minutes a day. You will be amazed how much this contributes to a well balanced and happy life.
Tip 5 – Practise Gratitude. Being grateful for your life and the people in it, is one of the best ways to turn around a busy, stressed overworked, feeling “put upon” mindset. It magically transforms a negative mindset into a positive one.
I hope you will try at least one of these tips, start small and build them up. Get in touch if you want help in building your “self care” plan. Have a great week – with lots of productivity and balance!