“The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty.”
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Hi Motivation Seekers, how’s your week been? How did you get on with your your positive thinking and positive talk during the week? I really noticed especially the language I was using. The weather has just turned bad here in Christchurch and I have to say, I’m not a fan of that. So it’s a good challenge for me to change the thinking, to think of the positives from this. Following on from our 3 things to be grateful for, here’s what I can say:
I’m grateful for the rain as it is so good for the garden and it will make it amazing.
I’m grateful for the rain as I feel cosy when I lie in bed and hear the rain on the roof.
I’m grateful for the rain as it makes everything look so fresh and green.
There – I’ve nearly convinced myself!
So this week, I thought I would follow on from this positive thinking/talking idea and take it a bit further by giving you some tips on developing a growth mindset. A growth mindset will take you places you never thought you could go. I love our wonderful image this week, which clearly shows the difference between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset. You probably already know most of this, but you may not know how you can work on developing a growth mindset. So here are some ideas for you, that you can start practising this week. Remember, just little steps at a time, so there is no overwhelm.
- Let go of perfectionism. Perfectionism can cripple us. It can stop us before we even start. Recognise that and let it go. Just do your best and accept that it will be good enough. Better to do something that isn’t quite perfect than not getting anything done at all, because it had to be perfect. Affirmations can help with this too as perfectionism quite often comes from a low self worth belief. Believe you are good enough!!!
- Hang around with people who have growth mindsets. This is major. The most mindset growth I ever experienced was when I belonged to the National Speakers Association. They had the most fantastic people in that group. They were abundant thinkers, they were driven to success in an open, caring and sharing kind of way. I learnt absolutely heaps from them. One lesson was that to achieve success and get ahead, you should become a “go-giver”, not a “go-getter”. Brilliant advice and leads me on to my next tip.
- Do things for others. Contribute, serve, make a difference. This more than anything will develop a growth mindset. It’s tied in with our need to do something meaningful and worthwhile in our lives. I gave up my accountancy career for that. I wanted to do something that had an impact for others, which is why I got into coaching. It hasn’t yet rewarded me financially as much as accountancy did, but in terms of growth of who I am as a person and what I have achieved for others, the rewards have been huge.
- Recognising failure is just a stepping stone to success. There have been some spectacular failures by a lot of highly successful people. Some have had multiple spectacular failures in their lives. The important thing is to know that opportunities arise out of that, we can learn from it and it can set us on an even better path than the one we thought we should be on. I come across this time and again in coaching clients. Their biggest stuff ups are more often than not, their biggest breakthroughs in life’s journey.
- Enjoy the journey! Focusing on the end result is great, we need to do that if we want to achieve that result. However, it’s the journey that is teaching us about ourselves, about others and about our lives and what is important. I often tell business owners that owning a business is character building, and it absolutely is, the road to success is not a straight one, the path is windy, twisted, full of obstacles and barriers, but enjoy that journey, acknowledge how you are progressing and know that it is all part of developing your growth mindset that will help you achieve great things for yourself, your family, your career or business and all the people in your life.
I hope that has given you some ideas to go on with and to help make a difference. Get in touch with me if you want to discuss this further or want to meet up for a no obligation free, first coaching session click here.
Have a fantastically, positive week developing your growth mindset.