“Define your fears, not your goals.”
Hello motivated people, how are you? Did you have a good week? I hope it went well for you and that you are progressing towards your hopes and dreams.
Last week I gave some tips on how to keep going towards your goals. This week, I wanted to talk about what can stop you and hold you back, what is the main emotion behind all the procrastination? It is a little 4 letter word, starting with ‘F’! Yes, it’s FEAR.
Fear is the main thing that stops us
Fear is the thing lurking in the background of everything we ever wanted to be, do or have. I found our quote which I think is excellent. It highlights the need to identify those fears. This is something that I work with every client on. We look at their vision, we look deeply at how it could be, we look at how we can reach that vision, then we look at what could stop you and what you can do about it. Nine times out of ten, there will be fear behind it. A lot of the time, it’s a lack of self worth and/or self belief, but behind that is fear – people won’t love us, people will think we’re stupid, if we raise our heads up and get noticed, what will the outcome be? We could be shamed, we could be ignored, laughed at……on and on it goes, all with fear behind it.
My fear experience
This came up for me this week. I am planning to hike the Abel Tasman with my son and family who are visiting from Canada. Firstly, I am not especially fit. Secondly, I have a sore back. Thirdly, I’m not as young as I was. Could I even do this? Could I last the distance, could I carry the pack, would I be able to do it? I had so many fears and I was so tempted to say no, I’m not going to make it. However, I really want to be with them. I really love that part of the country. We will be making life long family memories. I want to challenge and prove myself. If I give in and say no, I will regret it and always wonder “what if”.
So, I overcame those fears and leave on my trip tomorrow. I will report back on the outcome next week!
Fear Setting Worksheet
The thing I realised in going through all this, is that I went through several steps. I identified the fear, I identified the actions to take to overcome it, I identified the outcome of not overcoming the fear and lastly, I identified the result and reward of taking action and doing the thing I was fearful of. Then I remembered that I had a worksheet that helps with this. So that is my gift to you this week, the gift of being able to overcome your fears, starting with this really easy exercise to walk you through it. Click here for the worksheet: Fear-setting-
Have a fantastic week, having some fun with your fears and eliminating them from doing the important things in your life.