“Perfectionism is self destructive, simply because there’s no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal.”
Hello Motivation Seekers, how’s your week been? Hope you managed a bit of self care after last week’s post. I’m still not 100%, so my body is still telling me to take it slow, which has been pretty amazing…..I’m even walking slow – something I never do! I love how your body just takes over and does what it needs to. My only part to play in this is to just listen to it and follow what it tells me.
Part of this self care is to let go of perfectionism. Those of us who have those tendencies are never happy with ourselves, we are always striving to do better, to reach that perfect place where we have everything aligned and working the way we want it. As our quote tells us this week, it’s an unattainable goal. We are all human, and as part of that, no-one is perfect. That’s not to say you don’t try your best, being the best version of you is a fantastic thing to strive for. However, it shouldn’t be at the expense of our health, our relationships, our families. Being the best version of ourselves is probably more about being than doing. How’s your “to be” list? Are you being the true version of you? That’s what will bring peace and happiness, not the striving, driving, never ending attempt to be brilliant and perfect at everything we do.
What is the answer then? How do we balance it all? If we are perfectionists, is it possible to retrain ourselves? YES!! Think about the people you look up to. Are they perfect? The people we think most highly off are those who are vulnerable, human and imperfect. Those are the people who seem real and authentic and we are naturally drawn to them. Why then, do we pursue perfection, if we don’t particularly like it in others? It’s to do with fear. Fear of failure, fear of looking bad in the eyes of others and fear of getting it wrong. Get rid of those fears and the need to be perfect disappears.
Start practising that this week. Be the real version of you, with everyone you meet. Be open, honest, authentic. Accept yourself, acknowledge yourself for the wonderful you that you are and have a brilliant week.