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How Not to Worry About the Future

“Only certainty is that the future is uncertain.  So don’t waste time worrying about it.”

Ajahn Brahm

Hello Motivated people, how are you?  I hope you have had a good week and you remain safe and happy in your bubble.  In NZ, we may be moving to Level 2 this week, which we will know about tomorrow.  It will be good to have a little more freedom and for retail and other businesses to be able to open.  Obviously there will be restrictions, but it’s a step forward that’s for sure.

In talking to people this week and in all the news reports that I keep seeing/hearing, there is so much doom and gloom around.  It can really drag you down and make you feel fearful for the future.  So, I thought this week I would talk about worrying and how to avoid it.

Worrying is an absolute waste of time.  Worrying about the future, does nothing for us, other than to spoil the present.  We can’t be totally in the moment, enjoying the present if we are constantly thinking and worrying about what lies ahead for us.  We have no way of knowing what lies ahead.  None of us do.  The current situation that we are in proves that, no-one could have foreseen this or the devastating effect it would have on the world.  If we knew in advance, what difference would it have made?  Certainly, worrying about it would have made no difference what so ever.

The thing about worrying is that it is a passive activity.  It takes us nowhere and achieves nothing, so let’s not do it.  I know, these are really tough times and it is natural to feel apprehensive, but all we can do is retain our positivity, be in the moment and concentrate on taking action on the things we have control over.

Retain our positivity

This is vital to help us look at things in a way that empowers us rather than attacking us.  You can foster a positive outlook in many ways:

  • Reduce the amount of bad news you take in.  Yes, we do need to keep ourselves informed, but constantly reading about how bad it’s all going to be can lead to absolute overwhelm and makes us worry more.
  • Meditate, visualise, breathe.  All those things put our minds in a different state, and can eliminate worry.
  • Learn to see the funny side of things.  Be child like in your reactions, they laugh hilariously at the silliest things, we need to re-discover that for our adult selves.
  • Exercise, get out in nature, take time to smell the roses.
  • Practise gratitude – find 3 things each day to be grateful for.  This more than anything else will improve a positive mindset.

Be in the moment

  • Meditation helps us achieve this.
  • Practise mindfulness, when eating, when walking, when in nature – look around and really see in the present moment.
  • Learn to be present regardless of what is happening around you.  Now is all any of us have, so learn to be present to that, with little thought of yesterday or tomorrow.  Living like this can massively reduce worrying thoughts.
  • Just be, learn to accept what is and as Bob Marley says, “don’t worry about a thing, every little thing’s going to be alright.”

Take action 

  • Look at the things that you do have control over and see where you can take action to improve things for you.
  • There are always things that can be worked on that will make a difference, find them and take action on them.
  • Even if the action you take is small, it is by small, consistent actions taken that we get where we want to go.

I hope you have a brilliant week this week.  I wish you a worry free, action orientated week, with much love.