“It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.”
Hi Motivation Seekers, how are you? Is it starting to feel too stressful the closer it is till Christmas? I hope things are all going well for you, and please get in touch if you want help with anything. Did you like the blog on perfectionism last week? Did it make a difference for you? I sincerely hope so, that’s what these Motivators are all about….making a difference.
As I have been speaking to people over the last couple of weeks, I have noticed that everyone is talking about being really stressed. It’s the same every year at this time of year. You feel overworked, overwhelmed, undervalued and with far too much to do in too little time. Is that really the case? Is all that true? Or is it possibly what our quote tells us, it’s the way we are carrying it. Quite often we create this ourselves, almost as if Christmas wouldn’t be Christmas without the stress and worry. I’m not saying that you have all the time in the world and I do know that feeling pushed for time does create stress for us. However, it all starts in our mind. Change your mind and you change your experiences and your life.
Change your focus
Take time out to figure out what is important to you this Christmas. Then figure out how you can make that happen. For instance, you want Christmas Day to be perfect. Think about what would make it perfect. It won’t be that the turkey is amazing and the pav didn’t crack (mine always does, it’s become a tradition), it will be about the family being together, having time for each other and feeling the love! I know, there will probably be arguments and misunderstandings too, but that’s just families, being together is what it’s all about. Sort out the important stuff and everything else falls away.
Once you know what is important to you in the lead up to Christmas, you can then prioritise your time. We will never, ever have enough time to do it all. Let’s be realistic about that and do something about it. We have options, we can be in control of our limited time and prioritising is the way to do that. You can either do it, ditch it, give it to someone else or delay it till another time. You can even open up about your struggles and ask for help. These are all valid options and the choices you make will be made easier by being clear of what is most important.
I know, this is too simple! We don’t do it though. Taking time to practise mindfulness, deep diaphragm breathing, meditating will all help you carry that load more easily. The weird thing is when we get busy, that’s usually the first thing to fly out the window. We don’t want to do that, we want to help the stress and feel more grounded and centred so that we can cope better with what’s thrown at us. If you haven’t tried this yet, please give it a go. Click here to contact me if you want some help with this.
Have a wonderful week, carrying the load is easier when you have help, so practise doing that this week.