“Depending on what they are, our habits will either make us or break us. We become what we repeatedly do.”
This week I wanted to talk about our habits, the quote is perfect for this – “we become what we repeatedly do.”
How can that be? Think about it, how often do you find yourself doing the same old stuff, repeating the same old patterns, falling into the same old traps and wondering how it happened, yet again? I know, we all do this. We have good intentions, we become motivated and think now it will be different, but we fall back into the same habits that got us into trouble in the first place. As Einstein said “the definition of insanity, is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” Most of us get stuck in doing just that.
I want to motivate you to change that, by making small daily changes to habits that aren’t taking you to where you want to go. Where we go wrong I think, is that we try to change things too fast, it’s like the person who decides they need to lose weight. They join a gym and committ to working out every day and resolve to never eat anything high fat or high carb. If you are addicted to unhealthy foods and only ever sit on the couch each day, you will never be able to make this transition. You might keep at it for a couple of weeks, but will then fall back into your old ways and feel even worse about yourself. This applies to anything you want to change. So, what I am recommending is that you take it slow, let your new habits become established in a controlled manner. One that is manageable and not overwhelming.
The other aspect around changing habits is that you really need to want to develop new habits. It has to come from you, not me, not your Mum, not your husband/wife. You won’t be motivated to do it otherwise. You need to be clear about why you want to change. I used to be a heavy smoker many years ago and my husband was a non-smoker. He was always trying to convince me to give up, and I did – I gave up at least 6 times over! It never lasted, I always found it too hard and just couldn’t do it. I felt weak and useless and felt guilty that I spent so much money on it, but I couldn’t kick it. Until one day it hit me that I was potentially killing myself, shortening my life which could result in my children losing their mother. That was the only motivation I needed, I finally kicked the habit and haven’t smoked for around 30 years.
So to make those habits stick, they need to come from you and they need to have a good reason that motivates you to change your habits. The last thing I would say too, is if you have a day where you slip back, don’t beat yourself up – tomorrow is always another day and that can be the day you change your habits.
Have a brilliant week and contact me if you want help with any of this. Have fun changing your habits, and getting yourself where you want to go in a way that feels good for you.