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Showing kindness in scary times

“Be strong, be kind, we will be ok.”

NZ Prime Minister, Jacinda Ardern

Hello everyone, how are you?  Well, we keep thinking things have got as bad as they can be and they keep getting worse.  These are incredibly tough times for everyone.  Last week I gave some tips on how to keep calm and reduce your stress, I hope they helped you.  I kept finding myself getting panicky during the day and the deep, belly breathing really helped me calm down.  I hope it worked for you too.

One of the things I find helps is to have a daily plan of what you need to incorporate into your day to keep you centred, grounded and calm.  That is especially important at the moment as so many things that we normally do are no longer available to us.

Let me share with you what works for me.  I have a daily routine of doing mindfulness and Reiki when I wake up.  I don’t even get out of bed, I just prop myself up against the pillows and do this in the comfort of my bed….it works, no need to sit cross legged or upright in a straight backed chair, it works just as well if your are comfortable.

I then follow it up with a gratitude prayer, being thankful for all the good in my life.  Visualising and affirmations are a part of my day too.  I want to keep in mind the goals I have set myself.  It might seem right now that they will never be achieved, but that is just defeatist and negative thinking, if I think that, that’s what will return to me.  Better to try to remain positive and believe that this will pass and life may even be better.

I am especially careful about exercise, sleep and eating well too, along with taking supplements like Vitamin C and Vitamin D.  Fresh fruit and vegetables are the best way we can help strengthen our immunity.  We really need to look after ourselves at times like this.  I went for a walk in a park near my place during the week.  That did a lot to get me into a place of calmness too.

I know it’s a tough time especially for businesses, we have made several changes in our bakery/cafe business already, but it seems like we are only ever one step ahead, the next day it seems, everything changes again.  It is even more important that we manage to retain a positive attitude in this.  My husband is brilliant at this, he keeps seeing opportunities everywhere.  That’s what we need to do.  Look at finding the opportunity in adversity, the opportunities will be there, we just have to be open to them.  We have all been through tough times before and got through them, we can get through this.  Like the old saying goes, if life gives you lemons, make lemonade.

The other message I have is one that our very own Prime Minister gave us, to be strong and to be kind.  Kindness is going to help everyone cope with this.  Unfortunately, with the panic buying going on, I think a lot of people have just given in to fear and have ceased to think of others.  I keep thinking of the supermarket workers who are bearing the brunt of this.  They too are coping with fear and worry, yet they have to turn up every day and face an angry, panicking public.  There have been reports of supermarket workers being abused and yelled at.  Surely we can do better than that.  Giving to others, having empathy for their journey is one of the major things that we can all practise.  Just showing a bit of kindness can make a huge difference to the person being shown the kindness, but it also makes a huge difference to ourselves as we reap the benefits of giving as well.

I hope you are managing all this ok and I hope my motivators are of help to you.  I first started them nearly 10 years ago, to help motivate people after the Christchurch earthquakes, it’s incredible to think we are facing another major life changing event now.  I know after the earthquakes, community spirit and loving kindness grew and made life more managable, I think good can come out of this tough time too, if we remember what our PM tells us and be strong and be kind.

I hope your week goes ok and that you remain safe and well.