“Count your blessings.”
Hi Motivation Seekers, how are you all? I hope your week went well and if you come from Christchurch that you have survived a very emotional time and are managing to stand strong.
I have spoken to so many people during the week, who just feel lost and heartbroken. There is a strong feeling of helplessness and also shock in that we never expected an event like this to take place in our City, or even in our Country. We always felt safe and sheltered from terrorists, we thought we were too isolated and that our society would never be a target. How can we cope with all this?
My message to you this week is to see the good that has come from this act of hatred. The killer has achieved the opposite of what I think he wanted. There has been such an outpouring of love and kindness, acts of selflessness and a new awareness of the oneness of our world. I know it’s a tragedy that people have lost their lives and lots are still critically injured, but we need to look for the good to help us make sense of all this.
My quote this week is from my Mum, she told me that throughout my childhood. She also told me when I was a cranky, angry, not very nice young Mum with kids of my own. I couldn’t see the good in my life, or the good anywhere. She kept telling me to “count my blessings” and I’m ashamed to say I couldn’t see what blessings I had. I wasn’t ready to hear her message and I didn’t respect the bearer of that message enough to listen to it. Eventually, through much soul searching and personal development, I came to realise how truly blessed I was. What loving, kind, wonderful parents I had and how amazingly wise my mother was. It took me a while, but I got there!
We can reframe negative experiences into positives. I believe that it starts with 3 things. Forgiveness, repentance and gratitude. I remember when I did my Life Coaching course, the tutor told us the most powerful things we will ever think or say is : “I’m sorry, I forgive you and thank you”. These simple words, that can be so hard to put into practise can actually change your thinking and transform your life.
So it’s well worth it to do that. If there is anything you feel you need to apologise for, just do it. The one you hurt or upset, needs to hear it and you need to say it. If there are people in your life who you need to forgive, let that forgiveness come into your heart. When you manage to do that, you can move on and let go of any of the anger and hurt that you have held on to. That anger and hurt and lack of forgiveness actually hurts you more than the one you can’t forgive. It just keeps you stuck, so try forgiving and moving on. Lastly, the most powerful thing is saying thank you. Acknowledging others and speaking the words is major. Being grateful for the gifts in your life, for the people in your life and as my lovely Mum said, just count your blessings. Let’s all do that this week and think about how blessed we all are. Have a beautiful week, Kia Kaha.