“The quality of your thinking determines the quality of your life.”
A. R. Bernard
Hi Motivation Seekers, how are you? If you are like most of the NZ population, you will be back at work today after having a nice, long break for Easter & Anzac Day. At least I hope that’s how it has been for you and that last week’s Motivator on letting yourself take time out worked for you. We don’t operate well when we just go, go, go all the time. Letting yourself wind down, recharge the batteries and just be still and/or communing with nature has so many benefits for our health and wellbeing, so make the time for that.
This week, I was thinking about how in coaching we are trying to help our clients transform their lives. It means changing habits, losing limiting beliefs and facing up to our fears. These are probably the biggest things that stop us. Notice that they all involve change on the part of the client? Many of us are looking for a magic pill, an answer or an idea of how to make things better. Business clients in particular are looking for that, they want to know what they often don’t know.
As a mentor, an experienced business owner and a former accountant, I can give this advice quite easily. However, what I have found is that if the client continues with negative beliefs and thoughts, no amount of mentoring and advice will change things for them. They have to want to change themselves. The biggest thing any business owner can do is to recognise the things holding them back and change their mindset to one that allows success and achievement.
Well that last statement might have you puzzling as to why I think you may not be allowing yourself to be successful and achieve your dreams. It’s called self sabotage and we all do it, some more than others. The first step is to recognise that, and discover what are the deep seated beliefs that are behind this self sabotage.
I find one of the best ways to do this is to keep a journal for a few weeks. At the end of each day, just write down what happened that day and how you felt about it. You will probably start to see patterns emerging. Usually a repeating pattern of self sabotage is linked to a core belief that works against you instead of serving you. For example, if you find you are always procrastinating, look for the patterns there. How are you feeling when you are putting off doing that work that is so important? Where does that come from? When did you first notice this becoming a pattern, was there a memory from your past that stands out? This is a journey in self awareness, once you increase that you are on your way to changing your thinking. This exercise will unearth what the belief is behind the sabotage.
2. Change the belief
Once you know what is causing it, you can re-create your beliefs. Transform them from negative to positive, through affirmations, visualisation and meditation. The best thing you can do is become your own parent. Be the nurturing, fabulous, supportive parent that you always wanted (note – no-one in the world has ever had perfect parents), but now you can as you become that for you. It’s being able to accept and love yourself, even forgiving yourself for the past and nurturing your inner child. Keep working on that and your mindset will change.
3. Create a vision
When you have changed your thinking, let yourself create a vision of how you want things to be in the future. This is a new vision – a more abundant one, that is driven by your new way of thinking, by your success mindset that is now unhampered from the limiting beliefs that may have held you back.
If you don’t believe this is possible, then it never will be. You don’t have to believe it works, you just have to go through the exercises and see what happens. It’s worth a try isn’t it? If you need some help with it, just get in touch click here to contact me. Have a brilliant week starting to transform your mindset so that life opens up for you.